Last month, our article was 5 Tips to Ignite Passion in your relationship.  Each tip offered just a sample but could be a full course meal, so to speak, all by itself.  Thus, over the next few months, we will be covering each of these tips in more detail.  This month we are focusing on ways to seduce and flirt with your partner daily (not just when you want to have sex). 

 

But first, lets define the words seduce and flirt.  To seduce means to entice, tempt or persuade someone into a desired state of being.   (Sounds like fun, huh?)  And flirt is defined as a casual, playful romance.  (We like that too!)  Now, why is it that flirtation and seduction seems so effortless at the beginning of the relationship but as time goes on…they are only done as a prelude to having sex?

 

For some people, seduction and flirtation is an art and is considered equal to, if not better than, sex.  So, this month’s challenge is for you to seduce and flirt with your partner more often…more specifically, every day.  Here are 5 ways to help you get started:
 
1.  First, you’ve got to get yourself into the seducing/flirting mindset.  . Your view of yourself is going to have a major impact on your behavior.  So, start thinking of yourself as the “Seductive Temptress” or “Don Juan.”  Play with this role and have fun!  
 
 2.  Think back to the early days of your relationship, when you were dating and courting each other.  How did you let your partner know you were into him/her?  How did you behave?  Make a list of these behaviors and start doing them again!
 
3.  Tempt your partner by dressing the part.  Don Juan or the Seductive Temptress is not going to be wearing sweat pants, t-shirts, and flip flops, etc. on a date.  So, next time you are out with your partner (or are having a special night at home), dress in a way that sends the message, “I want you to be attracted to me”. 
 
4.  Entice your partner nonverbally. Convey your sexy thoughts of your partner with your body language.  For example, try to communicate “I want you” with your eyes only.  Gently rub your partner’s arm or lightly touch their face. 
 
5.  Don’t just think it…say it.  Tell your partner your sexy thoughts about them.  Let them know what’s on your mind.  Give them real, not generic, compliments.  For example, instead of saying, “You have a nice smile”, tell him/her why and what you specifically like about his/her lips. 
 
 
Remember, have fun and enjoy!  As always, wishing you more connection and passion!  Please feel free to contact us with topics you would like us to address.

          

Many blessings!